Sometimes Family & Friends Say the Wrong Things!

Shane, a member of the Forums, shared her frustration with some of the thoughtless things that her husband sometimes says. “My husband and I have a good relationship until he says crap like ‘You're just crazy’ and ‘It's all in your head.’ Or if I'm in a good mood he says, ‘Great! Now you're going to crash.’ If something makes me mad I'm just ‘sick.’ I feel caged and trapped as if I'm not allowed to feel anything.”

This is actually a big and justified complaint we hear all the time. People just say things and don’t think about how it comes across. One of the first articles I wrote for this site was on this very topic. I called it It's All in Your Head … And Other Thoughtless Things Said!

Marcia also voiced her thoughts on this in When Family Doesn't Listen, Maybe They Can't. “Almost every one of us has someone important -- family, close friend, boss, what have you -- whom we need to have understand, and who doesn't -- or doesn't seem to. They may not believe your illness is severe. They may be so preoccupied with themselves that your problems don't seem important. Or they may simply have no idea what to say, and so say all the wrong things.”

Have you run into this? What has your experience been? ~ Kimberly