Paula, a member known as thelavendercat in our Forums, offered some beautiful thoughts to another member who has been remembering traumatic, painful events from her past. Paula’s words are sage and offer such a valuable source of encouragement to anyone who must struggle through the healing of past events.
Paula writes, “It takes a tremendous amount of courage to deal with buried memories which come back in flashes, and even more to tell others what is happening to you as you absorb this new information. Memories, which surface concerning past abuses, can be very jarring and upsetting especially when they seem to come from the blue. You are obviously a very strong person; you made it through the abuse itself as a child and as a woman. Now that the memories are revealing themselves with full force, you are composed and reaching out for help which surely shows your inner strength.
“What to do with the information your mind is revealing to you is a very personal choice. Seeking a therapist who is familiar with s*xual abuse, repressed memories, and post-traumatic stress is a good option. On the other hand, a therapist without this background but with whom you feel comfortable can help you make sense of your experiences and the impact they have had on you. A compassionate clergyperson can provide added support, as can an understanding spouse. During this frightening and confusing time support is a necessity, both professional and in your personal life.
“Your prior therapist said it best, ‘It will come out on it's own.’ It does. That which our minds and bodies have protected us from surface when we are able to handle it, even if we think the timing couldn't be worse and we will never survive the impact. The new, painful information and all that accompanies it allows us deeper insight into who we are and how we arrived where we find ourselves. That insight, the internal puzzle pieces as they fit together, carries us through the pain and confusion we feel and allows us to heal. The mind which protected you, once freed from that responsibility, will mend you.”
