Are You, Or Would You Have Been, the Mother or Father?
I am bipolar. I am single and do not have children. At one point I REALLY wanted children. I was not diagnosed until last year.
How I Made My Decision, And What I Decided
12 years ago I became a middle school teacher so that is pretty much instant birth control right there.
Joking aside, I am a lesbian and would have had to gone the extra mile to get a child. I also had a hysterectomy at 31. My biggest thing is that I didn't want to do it alone. I wanted a partner to help. So, things have been pretty much mapped out for me.
If I find a partner with kids or who wanted them, I would be all for it.
IF I were carry a child, I don't think I would care about passing on bipolar. As for taking care of a child, yes, I am worried...but that is why I don't want to do it alone.
What I'd Do Differently
- I would have liked to have adopted around the age of 25. But things were out of control in my life. I did make the right decision because I am now starting to gain control.
Did the decision affect your relationship?
I have not been in a relationship for 14 years. I do think that my bipolar has made a difference in finding a partner. I have very low self - esteem and am get very upset if the relationship is not 50/50.
Do you have any advice for people facing this decision?
I think it is your own personal choice. If you have bipolar are you willing to work with this special person? For most of us I would say yes. We know so much more today than my mother knew.
