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Readers Respond: If You Could Say One Thing

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Updated November 14, 2011

Imagine you can say one thing to a single family member or friend regarding your bipolar disorder. What would you say? It might be something illuminating, requesting or angry, perhaps. Share what you'd say and read what others want to say.

its just me

Ive been on and off my meds for ten or so years. Its hard to swallow the fact that this is what my life amounts to. I unwilling accept the fact that I have bp. I cant stand the thought of taking all this medication everyday for the rest of my life. I would tell my mom... if you cared enough you would educate yourself on my illness or just listen and accept my words for what is true. Yes my life is in shambles right now but there is nothing I can do about it. Just Grin and bear it. I would let my lover know just how much I adore him for understanding my illness for going w/ me to all my dr. appts. And for loving just me. Im glad I raised my boys to understand me when I dont fill good. They can tell by just looking at me. But treat me no different. I have questioned the Lord above as to why he chose me... now I just come to terms with thats how he made me. I am who I am love me if you will. If you want to know something about my illness please just ask i am more than happy to answer. justme
—Guest jessinsa

IM KINDA LIKE A FEATHER

FIRST OFF I KNOW YOU TRY BUT YOU REALLY DON'T GET IT. IF I HAD TO PUT IT IN WORDS ( WHICH IS REALLY HARD) I WOULD DESCRIBE "IT" AS A FEATHER FLOATING IN THE AIR, SOMETIMES THE AIR IS CALM AND I FLOAT ABOUT CONNECTED WITH NATURE AND THE UNIVERSE, BUT THEN THE BREEZE STARTS BLOWING AND SOMETIMES IT BLOWS SOFT AND IN ONE DIRECTION AND ITS A GREAT FEELING, THEN THE WIND WILL PICK UP AND I AM BLOWN FASTER AND FASTER AND IN ALL DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS AND THE ONLY THING THAT STOPS ME IS THE RAIN. I GET WET HEAVY AND USELESS I AM PINNED TO THE GROUND RUFFLED AND DIRTY, BUT EVENTUALLY THE RAIN STOPS AND I DRY OFF AND IT STARTS ALL OVER AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN..............BUT IM NOT COMPLAINING I LOOK AT ALL THE "NORMAL" PEOPLE AROUND ME AND WONDER WHAT ITS LIKE TO BE NORMAL BUT I REALIZE THEY WILL NEVER FEEL THE NATURAL HIGH OF HYPOMANIA. WHO AM I KIDDING ITS LIKE LIVING LIFE @ 150 MPH OR 3MPH, WHILE EVERYONE ELSE IS CRUISING ALONG AT A SMOOTH COMFORTABLE 55MPH.
—Guest black dog

thank you*:)

i appreciate the posts more than you may know...i will carry your words with me from now on as i am realizing they are exactly what i need to preserve our marriage...thank you from the bottom of my heart.
—Guest nameless

I would say this...

I yam what I yam. I have said this numerous times and nobody can argue with me!
—cpvance

please understand

just because I look ok doesnt mean I'm ok and please understand that I do put up a front and say I'm ok when I'm not, i'm not trying to hide anything from you, its for my own protection, an attempt to hold things together and not break down, especially when out
—Guest desdolphins@hotmail.co.uk

try to understand

it is hard for me to accept that life might not go to the plan i had work toward for so long, dont judge me, dont give me your patronising advice that if i just worked harder or thought more positively I would be fine. I have worked hard to accept my diagnosis and find a new life for myself and still struggle every day not to be ashamed and view my bipolar as something to be ashamed of but to be proud of who I am
—Guest lis

One Thing!

I was raised to trust God in all things. Sometimes being bi-polar even causes difficulty in my spirituality, but I will never give up. If you truly are saying "You Love Me" and want to be there for me, then please learn about my illness and continue to embrace me. What exactly is normal? I may never know. What I do know is I will always be God's child! Which means in the human eye my mental illness may be viewed as an imperfection but in God's eye I am perfectly designed by him!
—Guest Shay

Silence

A glass full of nails and sawdust. Big painful gulps. Don't sit there and pray for me under your breath. Don't look at me terrified like I am an experiment gone wrong. I appreciate your genuine attempts to soothe and dispel and break the spell… I love you too. Our love is the only constant. Let us sit still in discomfort, connected and bound by our love. Let us not allow silence grow distance between us like two islands floating further and further apart.
—Guest Ana

Please Understand

I love you and don't want to make you sad. Why don't you love me enough to learn more about my disorder and support me? Why is it easier for you to abandon me?
—Guest BPII

Educate others

It is my responsibility to help others understand the signs and symptoms of bp. I continue to believe, there are many people, including those that are very close to us, really don't understand the illness. If I offer the basics, the fear, and how others appear uncomfortable, seems to lessen.
—igloo.girl

I'd tell my mom...

What bipolar is & how it affects me, making me the way I am. I'd tell her this because she's not interested in learning, only blaming. But if she'd just listen, she could understand.
—Guest TruTH

I don't like it, either

My inability to control my moods makes me hate myself, so I understand if you don't LIKE me, but please keep LOVING me. I need you, whether I can always express it or not!
—nthaniel

Cecilia Rodriguez-Bush

Being Bi-polar is like having an invisible two year old with you all of the time; half of your brain is taking care of him all of the while you are living your life! But once you accept that a) he is YOUR responsibility b) you MUST be the adult; a routine, good sleep, no drink/drug/caffeine. But if you do this program, like a three year old, he can bring you much joy. c) he is a part of you. A magical "extra" that I would never want to do without! I am 62 now. As I look back on my life, I am sure it would have been much easier had I not been bi-polar. But think of the things I wouldn't have done! I designed and owned a medical software company for 28 years! Traveled, enjoyed life to the max. and did many projects. Projects like starting a library in a small Texas town that is still open and employees 3 people! Started "Sammy's House" for migrant families. Had homeless teen moms and their babies live with. Bi-polar (my friend) enabled me to live this life. I thank him!!
—Guest CeciliaBush

It ain't all bad...

How I act is important. What I say less so. Sometimes I feel bad but act good. Sometimes I feel good and act bad. How about you?
—ChristianDystopian

I did not choose Bypolar, it chose me

And leave me alone. I am sorry I can't help you with your problems. I can't even manage my own.
—Guest Diana

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