I'm a husband to a bipolar wife of 35 y
- I'm yhe husband to a wife of 35 years. Which was said to be bipolar last year.She walked out on me with full blown pynemonia. I couldn't even get food toeat. I just bearly made to the kitchen got ice water and would fall back into my cheer. Then I found out she had already done my brother before she left,and in 2 weeks was doing and living with a guy she saw maybe 5 times in her life at a distance. These 2 supposed to be men were supposed to be my fieinds. I got the bastard she sleep and moved in with he's job. He lost it 2 or 3 times to drugs. Tolded out 2 or 3 trucks in one year being a drunk to go along with this. And this is were my church going wife went to move in and screw him 4 and 5 times a night. Then was still going to church playing high and might like she done nothing wrong. The church knowed this was going on and let it all go like nothing was wrong. some church isn't it. That's the place everyone should going for religion it doesn't matter what you do their. great place!
- —Guest Jim
Paradox
- I'm 19 and bipolar. I am totally addicted to physicality, it takes absolutely nothing to get me going. However, I am also religious and a virgin, and it's important for me to stay that way. I feel like I'm in a constant battle with myself, sometimes all I can do to keep myself from doing something I'd regret is lock myself in a room and turn off my phone so as to not bee tempted. I feel like I'm betraying my body, but when I go far physically, I feel like I betray myself.
- —Guest Steff
No happy medium
- What I hate about BP is the extremes. I hate the fact that when I'm depressed I have no desire at all, and when I'm manic its almost all i can think about.
- —Guest mjn
sex all or nothing
- I have been on meds for bi polar for around 12 years. Sometimes i want more sex than i can take othe times i have sex and do not feel a thing I am on lithum and seraquel at the time plus a handfull of other meds.I am on a 2 and a half year roller coaster, and i cant get off. I am scared exausted and am screaming out for some one for help, will it ever stop?
- —Guest leigh
Hypermania/BipolarII/sexualy frustrared
- My experience was almost 7 years ago now. I had been depressed for a number of years in a bad marriage. They say that bipolar people go into spending sprees, mine was w trying to control a spouse that spent money and accumulated cc debt so great that it consumed my every thought. I wanted marriage counciling she refused and I made the mistake of not pushing the issue. She was verbally abusive and I just took it. My thoughts were that a real man should take it! I made the mistake of saying I would not divorce, that it just takes work (25 years worth) I started feeling better after idealizing a young woman I met, her eyes and smile turned the pain and frustration that was part of every minute of every day (ruminating and not sleeping) She was 20+ years my junior. It could never work. I told her how deeply her eyes and smile had affected me. I wrote to her as secret admirer. I ran across her one day, and the fear I saw in her eyes haunts me to this day. I still can't forgive myself!!
- —Guest CAB
Thank you Guest Anna..
- I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder in December 09 and put on seroquel XR. I can relate to everything that you are saying because your story is almost identical to mine-the only difference is that I am not in a relationship. Not only do I not want sex or touch, I am actually repulsed by it. When I was first diagnosed, I did alot of reading and all I ever saw was BP causes hypersexuality/sexual addictions. I am glad to see that there are others like me, the opposite extreme.
- —Guest diora
Not sure what's happening with me
- I'm in the throes now of an episode that causes me emotional pain and confusion. My husband loves it when I become more sexual, and can relate to his sex fantasies more. He feels now like he can talk to me. But after he and I visit that sort of hypersexual side, or what I call a "sex weekend," though this can be very wonderful, and I'm open minded during these episodes. It ends with him turned on completely and exhausted. I'm ashamed and insecure, and deal with fear of having damaged our marriage/relationship. Last time I was on meds, I lost my sex drive completely! This made me completely afraid of taking meds, again. I was told once that I'm bi-polar and treated for it once. I tend abuse alcohol, which others tell me I'm self medicating, but now I am dealing with depression, and don't want to do anything at all. I wish there was an easy answer.
- —Guest Nikole
My sex drive died a horrible death.
- When I started a medication called 'Seroquel' for my bipolar and anxiety disorder, my sex drive suffered a long, and horrible death. I am now dating someone, and I have felt the need to tell them to go find someone else to have sex with, because really, I have no desire to be touched, and I am disgusted with the idea of sex. I do love him, but I have no need to have a physical relationship simply because now it doesn't appeal. The sad part about the whole thing, is that I'm told to go to the doctor about my lack of a sex drive, and to be completely honest, I have no desire to crave sex again. It's pretty extreme, I am aware of that. It is a blessing and a curse (for others, at least) that I have no desire for sexual interaction. My mind is not clouded with constant battles of if I look nice, if I'm attractive to my partner, and on and on. We all have a different reaction, but that is mine.
- —Guest Anna
I just don't go there
- With both bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder having wreaked havoc on my life in my younger years, I no longer have any desire for a relationship. I can't trust anyone enough. I intensely dislike casual sex and what it stands for. It leaves me feeling empty and disgusted. I got into a lot of bad relationships when I was younger and when I look back on it, they all started when I was needy and hypersexual. Now that I'm older any urge for sex comes less often and I'm grateful for it. Once I made the conscious decision to give up sex, sometimes an entire day would be eaten up by watching porn--not even stuff I want to do in real life, just anything that seemed a little extreme. I don't understand this as it is not who I am. I have been celibate by choice for 13 years now. I do not have any desire to change this. For me, the way to short circuit hypersexuality is to just not go there. I'd rather be alone than with someone who's going to abuse me, as happened in the past.
- —roselemort
Crazy Sex
- I have always been hypersexual from, from as early as I can remember and I have been married for almost 4 yrs. I recently discovered that I was bipolar after being on Zoloft and going crazy manic. I cant take lithium because I have thyroid problems so next choice was Wellbutrin. Wellbutrin has flung me into the nymphomaniac category. I obsess over sex with my husband plus cheating on him. I have had sex with old friends, total strangers and my friends (women). I've had to break off a friendship because of the trouble it brought. I also obsess about wild sex-roleplaying, the crazier the better and when I do it..I just want more. Totally frustrated. [Editor's note: Wellbutrin is an antidepressant, not a mood stabilizer.]
- —Guest EC
I Ring all My Old Boyfriends
- When high I have the need to connect all my old boyfriends, I spend hours on the phone. I usually hate the phone which is also strange. I set up meetings and have had affairs that have lasted months, years and sometimes just one night stands. I haven't told my husband of 20 years but I think he knows and just puts up with it. I now take only Lithium & Lamictal, I think the anti depressants contributed to my highs and constant thoughts of sex. I even tried to persuade a gorgeous young man 15 years younger than me to have sex while in hospital. These days I have no desire to have sex with anyone unless I am drunk. I hate this.
- —gogostopcrash
my bipolar fueled affair
- while hypo/manic manic i had an affair with a dentist 20 years my senior...I was in my early 30s with a toddler and a demading almost full time job. I damn near destroyed my marraige , we are still together, it wil lnever be the same. My hsbad was sort of ignoring me for his owne reasons career/baby etc when it happened, so it didnt happen for no rason, buyt bpolar illness (undiagnosed at teh time on SSRI;s which we all know make u manic) ) fueled it like rocket fuel. The afffair went on for several years. I told my husband in a manic episode..(note-not a good idea) Now Im at the other end of the spectrum after 4 years on lithium, no real desire.That ok for now. THe hypersexuality of hypomania and mania is so intense...its frightening and I think dangerous and risky. Be careful.
- —Guest glenwild
Misunderstood
- Not only am I misunderstood with no libido at all, but I also have an aggressive husband who hits me when his temper gets out of hand - whether because of my condition, or just because he is sexually frustrated. This does NOT help me and my condition in any way.
- —Guest Ingrid
Too old to sleep around
- Am now 60 y.o. Was very promiscuous in my 20's, slept with everyman I could. Married for 21 years to an abuser. Was a prude during that time. Divorced him. Became very religious and celibate. Remarried now for the 3rd time, for 9 years. Husband had a heart attack last year, and has NO sexual desire since. I became hooked on a Facebook game, and managed to snare a man, very innocently. Within 2 mos. we were having cyber sex, and my sexuality went off the charts. I forgot how much I loved wild sex. He thought I was really hot. Very flattered. We planned a rendezvous when my husband was away. I thought of nothing else but being in his arms, enjoying true passionate sex again. Due to distance between us, didn't do it. Had phone sex twice, it was great.. No call back , he disappeared from Facebook. He did let me know he is now really busy. Haven't heard back since. I am aroused 24/7 and trying to let it go. Surprised my hypersex would return at this age. Frustrated.
- —Guest Sandy
topamax helps
- I've been hypersexual from the time I was very young - actually before I ever had sex, I was a very sexual person. I have been promiscuous all my life. I hated myself. I didn't understand why I did it. It was not the real me. When I got on Topamax, it was like the real me finally came out. I still had desire, but just controlled. Instead of desiring every man or woman I saw, I only desired the person I was committed to. The constant fantasies, and driving controlling need for sex was gone. I am very thankful for this medication.
- —tkdsharon
